The Relationship Problems You are Not Told About in Fairy Tales
Relationships are one of them things you think you have figured out completely, until you are finally in one. With the perfect veneer created by disney movies and the cliches we are bombarded with thanks to your modern rom-com it is difficult to understand that sometimes there are problems. These are some tips that I have learned which I hope will help you.
1)
Never judge your relationship against someone elses
We all do all the time, why are we not as romantic, why are they so happy, why do we argue so much. The truth is every relationship will face problems now and then but what you have to remember is nobody displays these problems in full view. If you have an argument with your boyfriend right before that party full of family and friends what do you do. You will do what everyone does, paint on your smile and act like everything is fine. Concentrate on what your relationship means to you and not what you think it should mean.
2)
Never stay with someone because you are scared of being single again
This happens a lot and however difficult it may be to leave someone and start afresh it will be even more difficult if you leave it longer. Being single again after a long term relationship is terrifying, definitely but what about staying with someone you do not love? If you think a relationship can be repaired or rejuvenated, by all means give it your best but if it is dead move on.
3)
Never feel bad for being in a relationship
Unless you are very lucky, moving from being single to being with someone is going to change your other relationships with friends. However much you juggle and make time you are going to see them less and in different circumstances. If they are true friends they will understand and there will be no problem but some people get jealous or resentful, don't let them ruin your relationship with your partner!
4)
Romance is rare
Unless you are still in the honeymoon period of your new relationship or you are a character played by Jennifer Aniston it is likely romance does not happen every minute of every day, this is completely normal! Think about it, if you got them bouqet of roses or that surprise meal every single day would it still be special? Of course not and that is why keeping romance and romantic gestures to an occassional occurance is healthy in any relationship, you will appreciate them more.
5)
People make mistakes
This is hard one to get if the mistake is cheating but it is true. We are all human and are definitely infallable, it is your decision wether you can find it within yourself to forgive and forget.
6)
If you need to argue, argue!
A healthy relationship has common arguments and tears because this is how we release are pent up emotions and worries. If you are not arguing that is the time to worry, so if you feel the need to scream at him for not taking the rubbish out, do it, just don't argue over everything.
7)
True love is hard to find
This is one the disney movies got right, if you love someone and they love you back you are a lucky person indeed. The world is full of crappy relationships and exes and if you think you have found true love, protect it with all you've got because you are in the minority.
8)
Love comes in all shapes, sizes, colours and genders...
Do not discriminate, if you have the right to love whoever you wish, so does everybody else.
These are just some of my thoughts and feelings.
1)
Never judge your relationship against someone elses
We all do all the time, why are we not as romantic, why are they so happy, why do we argue so much. The truth is every relationship will face problems now and then but what you have to remember is nobody displays these problems in full view. If you have an argument with your boyfriend right before that party full of family and friends what do you do. You will do what everyone does, paint on your smile and act like everything is fine. Concentrate on what your relationship means to you and not what you think it should mean.
2)
Never stay with someone because you are scared of being single again
This happens a lot and however difficult it may be to leave someone and start afresh it will be even more difficult if you leave it longer. Being single again after a long term relationship is terrifying, definitely but what about staying with someone you do not love? If you think a relationship can be repaired or rejuvenated, by all means give it your best but if it is dead move on.
3)
Never feel bad for being in a relationship
Unless you are very lucky, moving from being single to being with someone is going to change your other relationships with friends. However much you juggle and make time you are going to see them less and in different circumstances. If they are true friends they will understand and there will be no problem but some people get jealous or resentful, don't let them ruin your relationship with your partner!
4)
Romance is rare
Unless you are still in the honeymoon period of your new relationship or you are a character played by Jennifer Aniston it is likely romance does not happen every minute of every day, this is completely normal! Think about it, if you got them bouqet of roses or that surprise meal every single day would it still be special? Of course not and that is why keeping romance and romantic gestures to an occassional occurance is healthy in any relationship, you will appreciate them more.
5)
People make mistakes
This is hard one to get if the mistake is cheating but it is true. We are all human and are definitely infallable, it is your decision wether you can find it within yourself to forgive and forget.
6)
If you need to argue, argue!
A healthy relationship has common arguments and tears because this is how we release are pent up emotions and worries. If you are not arguing that is the time to worry, so if you feel the need to scream at him for not taking the rubbish out, do it, just don't argue over everything.
7)
True love is hard to find
This is one the disney movies got right, if you love someone and they love you back you are a lucky person indeed. The world is full of crappy relationships and exes and if you think you have found true love, protect it with all you've got because you are in the minority.
8)
Love comes in all shapes, sizes, colours and genders...
Do not discriminate, if you have the right to love whoever you wish, so does everybody else.
These are just some of my thoughts and feelings.
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